3 Rules To Life
Where do you want to be?
What’s holding you back?
3 Rules of Life:
1. If you don't go after what you want, you will never have it.
Most days we're stuck making decisions, especially when it involves fears, doing something, or leaving someone behind. Hours goes by, lost in our thoughts, and yet nothing happened - no decision has been made. Months go by and we wish we would have been in a different situation. Years goes by and we regret the chances we didn't take.
A valuable lesson I learn is, in life, no matter what happens to always do what feels right and makes sense for me. It doesn't matter if it makes sense for others. At the end of the day all that matters is at least I'm one step closer to where I wanted to be. If I never took this step towards my dreams, it would still be just a dream.
2. If you do not ask, the answer will always be NO.
Through every NO, more YES are coming.
As someone who's been there, one of the greatest lessons I've is to always, always be kind to myself, first, to always love and forgive myself. It's not a selfish act.
Yes I've been rejected tons of times and yes it hurts my self esteem each time but through each NO, I learned about my worth, and most importantly that the very first, yes, starts with me. Every YES I give myself reflects every YES I received inconsistently slowly making it's way towards consistency. If I were to stop at each NO, I would still be where I used to be.
3. If you do not step forward, you will remain in the same place.
This is probably the hardest for a lot of us. It was for me.
Each of us has our own reason to stay behind. Fears, overwhelming amount of work, family and friends, etc. We know it best and it's up to us to decide if we want to continue to let that keep us from getting to where we want to be or not.
For me, when I look at the big pictures I see all the overwhelming work and hours I need to put into my businesses and right off the bat I knew I wouldn't mind doing it because I'm doing for me. It's an essential steps to my dreams.
It WAS hard for me because when I go forward I want a YES from my loved my ones. I would want to take the ones I loved and care about with me but what I don't realize is they may not have the desire to go with me. Over the years I've learned that not everyone is meant to join me on my journey every step of the way BUT it's important for me to keep going forward because it's my journey, it's my dream.
So, what's holding you back from where you want to be?
Through all trials and errors, I hope you always find the strength to pick yourself back up and keep going.
Through each NO, always start with giving yourself a YES.
If you want it. If it's calling out to you. It's going to be worth it.
With every step forward, may you be one step closer to where you desire to be.
Mai Ka (MK) Yang
